Confidence Tips From Alex Beadon

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I am signed up for Alex Beadon’s website, a photography business owner who does vlogs on how to improve businesses and personal blogs. I love listening to her weekly installment of Chatty Tuesday. Today’s vlog was called 5 Things I Do To Be More Confident. I think this is a really important topic, and that her video was really good! My favorite quote from video was this:

“If you want to be a truly confident person, you have to know that it all starts from an agreement that you make with yourself. I am going to be a confident person. I am going to back myself up no matter what.  I am going to believe in myself no matter what. I’m going to be confident.” –Alex Beadon

This is a revolutionary concept to me. While it may seem like a basic concept, I guess I haven’t ever thought about backing myself up. Instead of berating myself when I’m in a disappointing situation, or just an uncomfortable one, I should be my own backup support. I really like this concept, and I am going to work on incorporating it into my personal life.

This confidence tip was part of 5 tips that Alex gave. That being said, I actually counted 7 tips to improve confidence, not 5. Not that I’m complaining –more is always better, right? Without further ado, here they are.

1. Make inner agreement with yourself (see above).

2. Understand what’s holding you back

3. Agree to embrace failure

4. Monitor your thoughts. Only keep those thoughts that serve you.

5. Get comfortable outside your comfort zone.

6. Picture what confidence will look like.

7. Your online presence is the best version of yourself –be okay with that.

I really like these tips, and I think they are a good game plan for improving personal confidence. In addition to the personal agreement tip, I also like the tips about understanding what is holdng me back, and getting comfortable outside out my comfort zone. She talked about delving why I am scared of being confident. If I can understand my reasons for wanting to hold back, then I can combat them. Along a similar line, I like that she talked about coming up with specific situations where I feel uncomfortable, and working on tackling them head on. It’s one thing for me to vaguely say, I’m going to step outside my comfort zone, and quite another to pinpoint areas where I feel uneasy, and learning to deal with them better.

I really like the tips, and think her video is worth watching. You can check it out here: Five Things I Do To Be More Confident.

Style and Self-Esteem

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What Not to Wear is one of my favorite shows. I love watching Stacy and Clinton take people who feel rundown and help completely transform their outlook on life and view of themselves. I learned recently that Stacy London has given a lot of lectures on the relationship between style and self-esteem. I came across a list of quotes that she gave at a lecture in Manhattan. If you want to see my source, you can visit here:

Here are a few quotes that I absolutely loved:

  1. “Base your fashion choices on how you want to feel.”
  2. “The way you dress is one way to tell the world who you are.”
  3. “If you’re going to be stylish, you have to look in the mirror and like the way you look.”

I really liked these quotes, because it shows that the way I dress myself is a form of self-care. If I choose to not put effort into my appearance, I will feel less attractive. When I walk out the door, I will waste time worrying about other people’s opinions of me which I could use to reach out towards others. If I do not care for my appearance, it tells others that I do not value myself; which if I don’t value myself, how can I expect others to?

On the other hand, if I choose to care for my appearance, I will feel much better. When I strive to look neat, clean and attractive, it tells the world that I am responsible, of worth, and satisfied with my life. I am much more likely to be satisfied with my life if I can accept myself. Dressing well definitely helps with this.

While dressing nicely can’t create self-esteem where there is none, it can help me to see my own personal beauty that I already have. Even the simple of act of spending the time on myself to dress well can help me value myself better.